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California mediation attorney, California divorce lawyerIf you and your spouse have decided you want a mediator to handle your divorce, the first step you must undertake is selecting a San Jose divorce mediator. This is an important decision because it will set the tone for the entire process.

Determine the mediator’s style.

There are many styles of mediators. While there is no “right style,” there is a right fit between mediator and divorcing couple. Asking the mediator what his or her style is can help you pick a mediator. For example, some mediators guide the discussion by asking questions and making deferential comments, which allows the divorcing clients to reach their own decisions. Other mediators provide firmer guidance with proposals based on how a court would likely resolve the issue.

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California mediation attorney, Califorina family law attorneyMost couples do not intentionally enter a marriage knowingly believing it will result in divorce. Therefore, it stands to reason that your divorce taught you that everything could change from plans and circumstances and even people themselves. Due to this certain phenomenon, it is likely that after a divorce agreement has settled, either through mediation or litigation, that there will need to be a post-judgment modification. Hopefully, the alteration will not be necessary for a decade or more. However, it is possible that a change request may be needed months after the issuance of the decree.

How Soon Can We Make Changes?

During a dissolution of marriage, circumstances and needs are the groundwork for deciding the outcome. If the situation has shifted in any direction, it is imperative that modification is requested as soon as possible to avoid conflict and ensure the ability to comply with court orders. Although a judge will not make changes to decisions regarding asset division, the commonly renegotiated terms are:

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California divorce lawyer, California mediation attorneyWhen a marriage comes to an end, there are a wide variety of emotions experienced. Grief, anger, and anxiety of the unknown are just a few commonly expressed. While the two separating spouses are deciding how to arrange parenting time with the children and how to divide the assets, there may be another stress over the loss of control of the situation. When emotions run high, the “fight or flight” mode initiates and many people choose to run and let a judge do the dirty work. However, mediation is advisable for those seeking control over their situation.

Losing Control

Once you get in front of a judge, consideration is not typically given to the items you want and the arrangements you request. California is a no-fault state and no matter what happened during the marriage, these events will not be considered. The property splits into community property and separate property. The community property is then divided into two halves, regardless of feelings and how you came into possession of the articles. Judges are meant to be impartial and fair.

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California divorce lawyer, California family law attorneyIf you are in the middle of splitting up with your spouse, you may be searching for the best possible resolution options for yourself. Once you are certain that this is the end of your marriage but want to forgo a lengthy and expensive divorce proceeding in court, a viable option for you may be mediation. Mediation has many positive advantages and can be the right choice for you. 

What Is Mediation?

If you and your spouse are having difficulty agreeing to a property division, child support, visitation, or even spousal support/alimony, consider mediation. Understand that if you go in front of a judge, that judge must follow the law in making decisions. In mediation, the mediator will listen to both sides of the story and help to find a solution agreeable to both parties.  

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