California child custody lawyer, California family law attorneyWe are in the middle of the busy holiday season, and newly divorced parents are learning to cope with a new lifestyle. This year, there may be new child custody and visitation arrangements between everyone, creating unique challenges during the festivities. Not only is the situation difficult for the parents, but it is also a strain on any children involved. Although fewer than 50 percent of children today grow up with a “traditional family,” the constant flood of family togetherness during holiday media can create confusion for your family. There are a few steps that can assist in making the season easier for everyone after divorce.

Start New Traditions

If the thought of going on a nighttime drive to see all the decorated houses causes anxiety and sadness because one parent is absent, perhaps consider a new venue, such as a park to see the lights or a holiday festival. Continue with the traditions that do not create a significant amount of negative emotions, but if necessary, start new ones. Other holiday traditions to consider for something brand new are:

Do Not Make the Children Choose

Never ask your children to choose with whom they would like to spend the day. It is unfair to have them decide between the two most important people in their life. Parents should discuss this together and consult the agreed upon visitation schedule. If possible, consider having the children have the morning at one home, meet up for lunch, and then have them finish the day at the other home. At the very least, give them the option to speak to the other parent.

Allow Time for Relaxation

Relaxation may seem unimportant as many have time off work and school. Often, we tend to fill our days trying to catch up on the things we missed out on doing while we were busy in everyday life. However, take a day or two to do nothing but relax. Watch movies with the kids and eat easy meals and snacks. The stress from everything that occurred during the year takes a toll on every aspect of life, making it necessary to relax. Even your children will appreciate a day to do nothing.

Deciding an Arrangement

If you are considering divorce or renegotiating an agreement during the holidays, you should consider discussing the situation with a family law attorney. The Law Offices of Benita Ventresca has over 35 years of experience assisting families in similar situations and will proudly use that knowledge to help you find a suitable solution. If you are interested in discussing your divorce concerns with a San Jose, CA divorce attorney in the Los Gatos area, contact the Law Offices of Benita Ventresca today to schedule your free initial consultation by calling 408-395-8822.

 
Sources:

http://www.courts.ca.gov/selfhelp-custody.htm

http://www.courts.ca.gov/16432.htm