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California divorce lawyerMany people seek a divorce because they are tired of fighting with their spouse. Once they begin the divorce process, which typically includes property division, child custody, and setting support, they see that many more fights may be in store.

Perhaps it is the case that the other spouse is taking a tense situation and adding fuel to the fire. These spouses are considered to be high-conflict, and it can feel like there is no way out but to put up a fight.

However, a Cupertino divorce attorney has dealt with many high-conflict cases and understands how family law proceedings should be handled to minimize fighting. Here are some tips on how to manage a high-conflict ex.

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Caifornia divorce attorneyIf you have already decided that you will proceed with mediation for the numerous benefits it offers, you may be wondering what your next steps should be. There are several ways our clients prepare for their mediation sessions.

  1. Reflect on why you want to mediate.

When you are setting out to prepare for mediation, it is important to keep in mind why you want to mediate. Perhaps mediation was your spouse’s idea, and you are not so sure about the process.

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California divorce lawyer, California mediation lawyerJust because your marriage is coming to a close does not mean that your soon-to-be ex-spouse is out of your life forever. On the contrary, in fact, especially if you have children. More and more splitting couples are discovering that divorce is not the end of the conversation. Regardless of communication practices during the union, divorce discussions are harder. You will want to remember that during a divorce that effective communication skills can make the process easier and help you effectively get the arrangements that you want and need out of the agreement. These are a few tips that help clients in tough divorce situations and make divorce mediation a viable option.

Tip #1: Set Guidelines and Boundaries for Discussion.

As the adage says, “familiarity breeds contempt.” No matter how long the marriage lasted, there are likely to be some issues that were left unsaid. Familiarity during a divorce can lead to crossing boundaries, which is often destructive to the conversation. These are a few common scenarios:

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California divorce lawyer, California family law attorneyDuring a divorce, it seems like the world collapses. Due to rampant negative feelings, each party becomes defensive and the “blame game” begins. If everyone remains too busy “protecting their assets” no one wins. Many couples must go before a judge to sort out the divorce details. The disadvantage with this methodology is that neither party has control over the outcome. A judge has a set of guidelines by which to adhere to divide your assets, your children, and in essence, your lives. An alternative solution that is increasing in popularity is divorce mediation.

Your’s Does Not Have to Be a Nightmare

Your divorce need not be the unpleasant experience many envision. The negative imagery remains fueled on by personal anecdotes from family members, friends, or co-workers. Remember that no two people are the same, therefore no marriage is the same, and by that measurement, no divorce is the same. Relationships are complicated and personal, and no one can accurately assess them but you and your spouse. Negotiation is possible if you would like to have a friendly divorce.

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Posted on in Divorce

b2ap3_thumbnail_conflict-resolution_20160330-200810_1.jpgChoosing to split from your significant other is not a matter that should be taken lightly. It is a serious life-altering event that should be treated as such. However, it does not necessarily need to be a war between spouses either. There are several options for conflict resolution during a divorce to help make the process a bit more amicable.

The Object of Divorce

Many people focus on the overall objective when thinking of divorce. It is a split between a marriage or partnership. Yet, it entails more than just going two separate ways. Two lives have been woven together for years and now must strand by strand be unraveled from each other to ultimately become two separate entities once more. A dissolution of marriage is ultimately breaking apart everything encompassed in the matrimonial bond. Some of the issues that may have to be addressed are:

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