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California divorce lawyer, California mediation lawyerJust because your marriage is coming to a close does not mean that your soon-to-be ex-spouse is out of your life forever. On the contrary, in fact, especially if you have children. More and more splitting couples are discovering that divorce is not the end of the conversation. Regardless of communication practices during the union, divorce discussions are harder. You will want to remember that during a divorce that effective communication skills can make the process easier and help you effectively get the arrangements that you want and need out of the agreement. These are a few tips that help clients in tough divorce situations and make divorce mediation a viable option.

Tip #1: Set Guidelines and Boundaries for Discussion.

As the adage says, “familiarity breeds contempt.” No matter how long the marriage lasted, there are likely to be some issues that were left unsaid. Familiarity during a divorce can lead to crossing boundaries, which is often destructive to the conversation. These are a few common scenarios:

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California divorce attorney, California mediation lawyer, Perhaps you and your spouse sat down and shared a lengthy conversation about what is wrong in the marriage and determined the situation as irreparable. On the other hand, maybe you knew that there were difficulties, but assumed there was nothing you could not work out together. No matter the situation leading to this point, nothing adequately prepares you for the moment you receive divorce papers, even if you saw it coming. What happens next? Do you have to reply? What happens if you refuse? These questions and more often come to the forefront of thought during this time.

The Papers

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California divorce lawyer, California mediation attorneyThe dissolution of a marriage is a stressful process for a family. While mediation is supposed to ease some of the difficulties associated with divorce litigation in court, sometimes getting both spouses to agree to mediation can present its own issues.

Deciding to use mediation is one of the first of many decisions you and your estranged spouse will have to make, so it is no wonder that it presents a stumbling block for many couples. If you believe that mediation is a good fit, but your spouse is not as sure, there are several things you can do.

Get to the Root of the Problem

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California divorce attorney, California family attorneyDissolving a marriage is a complicated process. With emotions on both sides and an entire life to divide, the finality never can seem to come quickly enough. For some couples, the divorce process can take more than a year and thousands of dollars. However, there are methods available to avoid that worst case scenario. An increasing number of Americans are seeking to divorce through more amicable terms, such as collaborative law and mediation. These alternatives make dividing assets a much more pleasant memory, and there is a higher likelihood of getting what you want.

Property to Discuss

A large number of minute details join to create the life that you and your ex-spouse have together. The process of breaking it apart piece by piece is overwhelming and stressful to most who endure it. It is tough to ascertain where to begin. Many find it useful to have a checklist to complete. Assets you should consider:

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California divorce attorney, California mediation lawyerEach dissolution of marriage is unique. No two are the same except for the end, where the two are no longer legally married. Some experiences are relatively quick and easy with minor emotional repercussions. Other divorces are extremely lengthy, causing shedding of an innumerable number of tears and expenditure of untold sums of money. The good news here is that the dissolution process can be tailored to suit your needs and circumstances. Together we can determine if mediation is a possibility or if divorce litigation is the only option.

Mediation

There are not many individuals that can drop a few thousand dollars without effect on their bank account status. For those who do not have money to spend unnecessarily, you likely are interested in saving some of your money if the outcome is the same. Therefore, it is illogical to skip straight to a divorce litigation option for divorce without first exploring other possibilities. One such option is mediation. We advise many of our clients first to consider this option for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is saving money. Remember, mediation in this sense does not mean the same thing as marital mediation, in which you are working to save the marriage. Here you are dissolving the union, just through an alternative setting. However, this path does not pan out for every situation. A few situations in which this may be beneficial, are:

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