Blog
Call for a free initial consultation
Law Offices of Benita Ventresca408-395-8822
20 S. Santa Cruz Ave., Suite 212, Los Gatos, CA 95030
Offering Limited Scope Service
Mediation and Litigation
Subscribe to this list via RSS Blog posts tagged in San Jose mediation attorney

California divorce lawyer, California mediation lawyerJust because your marriage is coming to a close does not mean that your soon-to-be ex-spouse is out of your life forever. On the contrary, in fact, especially if you have children. More and more splitting couples are discovering that divorce is not the end of the conversation. Regardless of communication practices during the union, divorce discussions are harder. You will want to remember that during a divorce that effective communication skills can make the process easier and help you effectively get the arrangements that you want and need out of the agreement. These are a few tips that help clients in tough divorce situations and make divorce mediation a viable option.

Tip #1: Set Guidelines and Boundaries for Discussion.

As the adage says, “familiarity breeds contempt.” No matter how long the marriage lasted, there are likely to be some issues that were left unsaid. Familiarity during a divorce can lead to crossing boundaries, which is often destructive to the conversation. These are a few common scenarios:

...

Posted on in Mediation

California divorce lawyer, California family law attorneyDuring a divorce, it seems like the world collapses. Due to rampant negative feelings, each party becomes defensive and the “blame game” begins. If everyone remains too busy “protecting their assets” no one wins. Many couples must go before a judge to sort out the divorce details. The disadvantage with this methodology is that neither party has control over the outcome. A judge has a set of guidelines by which to adhere to divide your assets, your children, and in essence, your lives. An alternative solution that is increasing in popularity is divorce mediation.

Your’s Does Not Have to Be a Nightmare

Your divorce need not be the unpleasant experience many envision. The negative imagery remains fueled on by personal anecdotes from family members, friends, or co-workers. Remember that no two people are the same, therefore no marriage is the same, and by that measurement, no divorce is the same. Relationships are complicated and personal, and no one can accurately assess them but you and your spouse. Negotiation is possible if you would like to have a friendly divorce.

...

California family law attorney, California mediation lawyerMany children grow up envisioning their wedding day, dressed up as a prince or princess and marrying the person of their dreams. With today’s family dynamics coupled with a high divorce rate, this dream shatters, and many are left in an alternate situation. Perhaps they find their soulmate, the person with whom they are intended to travel through life. However, a growing number of couples choose to cohabitate rather than legally tie the knot. A common reasoning for choosing to remain legally separate is that “there is no need if what we have is good; marriage is just a piece of paper.” However, that “piece of paper” can make life easier down the road and provide protection because eventually, all good love stories come to an end, be it through natural death or separation. If your ending to a long-term relationship is a breakup, what are your options for property division or child custody? One great solution is divorce mediation.

A House Divided

Those who choose to cohabitate in California are not under any protection from a common law marriage that couples in other states enjoy. California has no such laws; if you never made it legal, the union never existed. With that said, no one enters into a committed long-term relationship knowing or even hoping that it will fail. If we all were able to see into the future, perhaps we would choose the marriage option to make a separation easier to navigate under the divorce laws of the state. Since divorce litigation is not an option, there are alternatives to assist splitting couples who were never married. One such example is mediation. This solution supports those who wish to guide their post-relationship agreement without the inclusion of a judge. Together, with the assistance of a mediator, you and your now ex can work out a legal agreement for all of the pieces of your lives together. Benefits of mediation include:

...

Posted on in Divorce

California divorce attorney, California mediation lawyer, Perhaps you and your spouse sat down and shared a lengthy conversation about what is wrong in the marriage and determined the situation as irreparable. On the other hand, maybe you knew that there were difficulties, but assumed there was nothing you could not work out together. No matter the situation leading to this point, nothing adequately prepares you for the moment you receive divorce papers, even if you saw it coming. What happens next? Do you have to reply? What happens if you refuse? These questions and more often come to the forefront of thought during this time.

The Papers

...

Posted on in Divorce

California mediation lawyer, California divorce attorneyIt is no secret that the cost of divorce is not cheap. When you and your ex both need to set up separate living arrangements, complete with full pantries and furniture, it is strategic to cut costs where possible. Many protocols during divorce are optional and are the most useful during complicated separations. These extraneous measures are not always necessary for straightforward cases where both parties are amicable and willing to negotiate. If you are interested in reducing the financial burden of your divorce, we have a few helpful tips to consider.

Discuss Billing with Your Attorney

Explain your financial concerns with your divorce lawyer. Ask questions about billing arrangements. The majority of lawyers rely on an hourly charging schedule. Collect your thoughts and write down your questions before making communication if this is your agreement.

...
Google Map Marker

Law Offices of Benita Ventresca

20 S. Santa Cruz Ave., Suite 212
Los Gatos, CA 95030

Phone Icon

Call us for a free initial consultation

408-395-8822
FBK TWT GGP YTB

Conveniently located in downtown los gatos and
close to highway 280, 85 & 880

FREEVALETPARKING

Back to Top