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Six Things Parents Should Remember During Child Custody Disputes

Posted on in Child Custody and Visitation

California divorce lawyerThe end of a long-term relationship is often a difficult time for everyone involved, and during a divorce or break-up, couples will likely experience a great deal of emotional turbulence as they establish new living situations, separate their finances, and determine how to move forward with their lives. These situations often involve a high level of conflict, and disagreements can become even more contentious when children are involved.

The decisions made about child custody will affect parents’ and children’s lives for years to come, so divorcing parents should be sure they fully understand their rights and keep their children’s best interests in mind. Here are some tips to follow when working to reach a resolution in child custody disputes:

  1. Do not involve children in conflict - It is important to protect children from arguments between parents, allowing them to maintain good relationships with both their parents going forward. Never try to alienate your children against their other parent or use them to send messages to your ex.

  1. Keep your emotions under control - While your former partner may attempt to provoke your anger, it is important to keep a cool head and avoid emotional outbursts, whether you are appearing in court, speaking on the phone, or communicating via email.

  1. Watch what you share - Finding ways to enjoy yourself and blow off steam can be a good way to cope with the stress and anxiety of a divorce, but be careful about sharing the details of your activities on social media. The pictures or comments you post could be used to call your parenting ability into question, and discussions or pictures of recent purchases may affect decisions about the financial support that you pay or receive.

  1. Follow court orders - During divorce or child custody proceedings, the court may issue temporary court orders regarding custody, visitation, or child support. It is important to abide by the terms of these orders, since failing to do so can not only affect the final decisions made, but could result in your being held in contempt of court.

  1. Consider mediation - Divorce litigation can be incredibly costly and time-consuming. If possible, you should consider working with a mediator to come to a mutually agreeable resolution to your child custody disputes, which will allow you to reach a settlement much more quickly and efficiently while avoiding the stress and anxiety of fighting public battles in court.

  1. Work on co-parenting - You and your ex-partner will be parents for the rest of your lives, so it is important to establish a good foundation for working together to raise your children. Be willing to communicate, compromise, and help each other out, always keeping your children’s best interests in mind.

Contact a Los Gatos, CA Family Law Attorney

Whether you are ending your marriage through divorce or working to resolve child custody issues with an unmarried partner, the Law Offices of Benita Ventresca can help you understand your rights, advise you of your options, and advocate for your children’s best interests. Contact a Los Gatos child custody lawyer at 408-395-8822 to schedule a free consultation.



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