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Helping Your Teenage Children Cope with Your Divorce

Posted on in Divorce

CA family lawyerThe end of a marriage can be an emotionally difficult time for everyone involved, but teens often struggle to adjust to their parents’ divorce. Teenage children of divorcing parents may experience issues such as depression, academic difficulties, behavioral problems, substance abuse, and involvement in sexual activity.

As a parent, you want what is best for your children, and you can help teenagers cope with the changes in their lives in the following ways:

  • Listen to their concerns - Teenagers are likely to worry about the future, so you should encourage them to talk to you about their feelings. Offer them love and support, letting them know that it is okay to feel sadness, anger, or grief, and helping them express these feelings in a healthy manner.
  • Maintain a consistent routine - A sense of consistency is beneficial for children, so sticking to regular schedules for activities can help them maintain a sense of normalcy as they are going through changes to their lives. Try to make sure that both parents continue to participate in activities with them as you did prior to your break-up.
  • Encourage a relationship with the other parent - It is important for children to maintain a good relationship with both parents, so you should encourage them to communicate and maintain a close bond with the other parent and avoid criticizing or undermining your ex in front of them.
  • Keep children away from conflict - Parents should do everything they can to keep children from being involved in any arguments or disputes during or after divorce. Never try to make your children choose between you and your ex or ask them to spy on the other parent.
  • Avoid oversharing - When discussing your divorce with your children, be honest, but talk to them in an age-appropriate manner. Avoid laying blame for the divorce or providing too much detail. While it may be tempting to confide in them about your own emotional issues or your dating life after your divorce, do not rely on them for emotional support.
  • Seek professional help - If children experience negative effects at school or at home as they adjust to their new reality, it can be beneficial for them to work with a therapist or counselor who can help them understand how to deal with the emotional issues they are experiencing.

Contact a Los Gatos Family Law Attorney

During and after your divorce, you will want to be sure to protect your children’s best interests and help them come to terms with the changes they are experiencing in their lives. If you need help addressing the legal issues that must be resolved as you work to finalize your divorce, the Law Offices of Benita Ventresca can answer your questions and help you reach a favorable outcome. Contact a Los Gatos, CA divorce lawyer at 408-395-8822 to set up a free consultation.


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