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How to Prepare for Divorce Mediation in California

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Los Gatos, CA family law attorney for divorce mediationIf you have decided it is necessary to end your marriage, you may be worried about what comes next. The divorce process can be stressful, but the good news is that most couples are able to avoid a lengthy court battle and instead reach a cooperative agreement through negotiation and mediation. If you make the effort to go into the mediation process prepared, you can eliminate some of the stress and uncertainty and increase your chances of a satisfying outcome.

What Is Divorce Mediation?

Mediation is an alternative dispute resolution method that may be a good choice for couples who have made the mutual decision to divorce or who are willing to cooperate to reach a resolution. Unlike a public trial, mediation occurs in private, often with only the spouses and a third-party mediator present. You and your spouse will maintain control over all decisions you make, while the mediator’s role is to remain neutral and guide constructive discussions. In addition to the benefits of privacy and control, mediation also often allows you to save money and time when compared to litigation.

Preparing for Your Mediation Appointments

You can help the mediation process go smoothly by thinking through a few questions in advance, including:

  • What are your priorities? Before mediation begins, it is often beneficial to consider and even write down the items that are most important to you in your divorce agreement, as well as those where you are more willing to make concessions. Knowing when to be assertive and when to compromise can help you avoid prolonged debates over every last detail.

  • What are your children’s best interests? If you and your spouse have children under the age of 18, a large part of your mediation discussions will likely involve issues like child support, child custody, and visitation. You will need to consider not only what is important to you, but more importantly, what will put your children in the best possible position at a time when they are likely struggling just as much as you are.

  • What is the best way to communicate with your spouse? A communication breakdown may have been a major contributing factor in your decision to divorce, but successful mediation will require you to communicate effectively with your spouse, at least on a professional level. Consider what you know about your spouse and your own reactions to conflict, and work to maintain constructive communication that focuses on solutions rather than personal arguments or attacks.

Contact a Los Gatos Divorce Mediation Attorney

At the Ventresca Law Firm, we will not only provide you with sound legal advice and representation, but we also offer skilled mediation services to help you achieve a divorce agreement. We want to help you eliminate stress and destructive conflict as much as possible. Contact a Los Gatos, CA divorce mediation lawyer at 408-395-8822 for a free consultation.


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