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Los Gatos divorce mediation attorneyDivorce mediation can be an excellent avenue for couples to reach compromises on the various issues that must be addressed in order to dissolve their marriage. Since courtroom litigation can cost both parties valuable time and money, mediation is a popular alternative, and it can allow a couple to address and resolve each individual aspect of their divorce with the help of a trained and licensed mediator. While divorce mediation can be beneficial for divorcing couples and their children, there are times when the process can stall, and in some cases, it may fail altogether, requiring spouses to find alternative ways of resolving their disputes.

Signs That Mediation Is Not Working For You 

Mediation can take some time to complete, especially when you need to address multiple complex issues related to your children, your property, and your finances. However, there are a number of signs that the mediation process has broken down and is not working. For example, one spouse may consistently make personal attacks during mediation, use mediation time to voice frustration and anger over the divorce, or refuse to remain on topic when discussing issues. If you have spent a number of hours in mediation and have failed to reach an agreement on many of the remaining issues that you need to resolve, it may be time to pursue an alternative resolution strategy. 

What Are My Options? 

If you and your spouse are finding the mediation process difficult, you may want to consider taking a break before resuming discussions. In many cases, stepping away from the process can provide a new perspective for both parties, and this can lead to more constructive discussions at a later date. If you feel unhappy with the process because of the compromises you are required to make, you should take a look at whether your spouse is also making compromises. If it seems as though you are the only one who is willing to give any ground, and your spouse is refusing to meet you halfway, then you may need to find other alternatives for resolving your disputes. 

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Los Gatos divorce lawyer for high conflict casesIf you have decided to end your marriage and pursue a divorce, you may experience a great deal of turbulence in your life as you determine how to separate from your spouse and begin living as a single person. In some cases, couples may separate amicably and work together to resolve divorce-related issues using methods such as mediation. However, there are also cases in which a divorce can become hostile and highly contested. If you are experiencing high levels of conflict when separating from your spouse, you will want to understand the best ways to respond and protect your rights during the divorce process. 

What You Can Do During a Hostile Divorce 

When a divorce becomes contentious, it is important to remain calm, avoid conflict whenever possible, and focus on the things that matter. Some steps you can take in these cases include:

  • Focus on Your Safety: If your spouse has committed abuse against you or your children, or if they have acted in a way that has caused you to fear for your family’s safety, you will want to take steps to protect yourself and your children from harm. You may need to obtain an order of protection that will prohibit any further acts of abuse or violence, prevent your spouse from contacting you or entering your residence, and put arrangements in place to ensure that you will be able to meet your family’s needs as you proceed with the divorce process.

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Caifornia divorce attorneyIf you have already decided that you will proceed with mediation for the numerous benefits it offers, you may be wondering what your next steps should be. There are several ways our clients prepare for their mediation sessions.

  1. Reflect on why you want to mediate.

When you are setting out to prepare for mediation, it is important to keep in mind why you want to mediate. Perhaps mediation was your spouse’s idea, and you are not so sure about the process.

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California mediation attorney, California divorce lawyerUnless you and your spouse experienced a brief marriage, have no children and no joint property, divorce litigation is not inexpensive. Even in an uncontested divorce, a couple must consider the cost of the filing fees as well as court costs. In an uncontested divorce where both parties approve the requests made in the divorce petition, court time may not be necessary, and the divorce should be official after six months. However, in instances where splitting spouses cannot agree upon the petition, the court gets involved which can increase the costs. Many seeking divorce search for a lower cost option leading a growing portion of the population choosing divorce mediation.

The Financial Truth of Divorce Litigation

In most scenarios of divorce litigation, there is the basic cost of each party with their attorney. In many more tangled matrimonial webs, there may be the additional costs of experts, such as those to determine who is best for providing for the children, appraisals, and business evaluators. The financial cost of going to court can easily reach into the five-digit range. The number increases exponentially if the two parties are unable to agree or emotions run high. Emotions left unchecked lead to an abundance of motion filings and, therefore, higher legal fees.

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California mediation attorney, California divorce lawyerDivorcing a spouse, no matter the length of the marriage or the circumstances surrounding the split is rarely easy. With divorce rates reaching nearly half of all marriages, millions of Americans each year search for a better, less traumatizing method to end their union. A growing portion of the population chooses to utilize a divorce mediation process. Although mediation offers many benefits that litigation does not, it simply is not a viable or beneficial option for all cases.

The Benefits of Choosing Mediation

The mere thought of going to trial to have every personal aspect of a private life ripped apart and picked through by a judge creates such anxiety for many seeking a divorce that some avoid the situation by staying in an undesirable marriage. For these, there are several alternative divorce resolutions (ADR) available, one of which is divorce mediation. The assets available with this option are:

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